There are advantages to hearing Lori LaFond tell her friends what to say and do to me every day, all day long. I want to clarify that too...I do hear her talking, but most of the time she filters her manipulation through Christian who sits in the same area of the house that the both live in. Actually, even that situation is a disturbing look at how Lori lives.
There is a ton of disturbing characteristics that go in to the making of Lori LaFond. To understand some of them might tell people something that they can use to defend themselves with. When you are dealing with someone with as many issues as Lori has, it is relative and important to note what are the most serious problems with the way she tries to hurt people. I know that this is taking a big bite out of the crazy cake, but there are many people that have the wrong impression of her, I'm not one of them.
When I thought of this post tonight it was a response to many failed attempts by Lori to control me and others. I've seen it many times, in fact, she makes a list of when she was the happiest making me feel miserable. There's an awful lot of control that goes into that kind of continuous attempt. The list starts in the morning and goes all day and night until it ends in frustration for Lori as she tries to explain that her negativity has a cumulative effect and must be done every single day to her satisfaction. The thing is that she is a sociopath and satisfaction never happens.
Where do you start with Lori's problems? Drugs? Mental health? Hatred? The list of problems seems endless, but the main aspect that I want to get across, first, is her need to have you fear her. Lori wants you to be afraid of her. She wants to terrify you into submission. Controlling people begins, at least with Lori, begins with them fearing her.
I've known Lori a very long time and one thing that has always been a part of her character is her need to look like she's stronger than all of you. She doesn't care who you are either. If you are a victim of this crime, you already know that making you her victim is part of the fear and control she seeks. The interesting part is how that manifests itself when it comes to dealing with the parents of the victims. Lori is just as hateful and just as threatening to all of them. "You know I won't be responsible for my actions if you do that," Lori tells them. I find her disrespect of parents to be a cornerstone of her mental disease. She has huge mommy and daddy issues, so huge that she seeks out friends to portray both her mother and father. If you tell her something that she doesn't want to hear, you are now her "father" or her "mother" who Lori thought were too controlling. Any good psychologist or PhD will tell you that the core of all of her blame comes from her family life, but Lori is also genetically predisposed to anger, fear and violence.
No doubt, if you are one of her victims, you've heard her "no man-ifesto", which is the concept that "men", in particular, "gay men", have ruined her life and the lives of all women. You see it time and time again the way she takes rookie cops and treats them like underlings, insubordinates and beneath her. She does the same with gay male victims by shoving us into a box of promiscuity, AIDS and hate. So what is the truth about Lori's hatred of men, is it a real thing or is it a smoke screen so that she can be more like her counter part Missy Pissy?
What I do know is this? In the seventh grade Lori made up a relationship with our science teacher within the first week of school. When she was in the seventh grade she made up a relationship between my father and one of his students. My father was not the science teacher. The student, in my father's case, was male. I think what you see with this is a girl, using drugs, seeking approval of men. When she couldn't get it from them, she made up stories about them and tried to get their attention by hurting them. I know she tried this with me as well, the first time she ambushed me in high school, first day, before my first class. It is no secret that Lori hated her father and mother, she was always looking for someone else to fulfill those roles. Often, Lori would confuse those parental roles with sex thinking that sex meant approval. It obviously doesn't.
My firm belief because of Lori's drug usage, then and now, is that she has never matured past the level of a 12 year old girl with a confused sexuality. Does sex mean love? Why do girls seem more attractive to her? How could she have these feelings towards women when she's had sex with so many boys? Literally there is a ton of speculation as to why Lori is so homophobic, but none of that would have mattered if she had matured past the level of "I hate who I am". Her confused sexuality began manifesting itself in trying to date other boys girlfriends and caring more about what the girl thought than the man. I've seen that look on her face, by the way, when she thinks that she has gotten to the girlfriend of a boy. It's eerie. This didn't change. She still has fantasies about being the "other woman". It's the relationship she craves, because it would give her the control over a person's family that she loves so much.
That is something else too, the "family matriarch". What is it about Lori being the head of her household? Certainly, Lori did not have a close relationship with her mother, father and siblings. She told everyone she was an only child, but when it is convenient, she says she was always the youngest, the baby in the family. For some reason she thinks that this will garner her sympathy. It doesn't. A 51 year old woman is never the "baby" any longer. You hear her constantly baby talking to her brother about how someone is "scaring me", "please save me Junior", "mother never liked you" and all kinds of "goody goody gumdrops" kinds of sayings the most people haven't heard since kindergarten. The maturity level in Lori is frightfully low, almost to the point of incapacitation. She lives in filth, she doesn't bathe, she wears other people's dirty clothing, she steals, she constantly lies even when it is obvious that she is guilty, she blames her brother for everything and when all else fails, which it usually does, she blames gay men, who she hates with a passion. Wouldn't you if you were looking for a daddy figure and you thought that sex meant love? A gay man certainly isn't going to provide that for Lori, is he?
Lori has the need to one up her own mother too. Lori's a better mother than she was, according to Lori. Lori has complete control over "her own family". She's far more sophisticated, eating off of good China, drinking "beverages" and dreaming of the life of luxury, that I, Kevin Bond, somehow, kept her from. For some reason she thinks that I cost her life of caviar and fame. I guess it is because I testified at my dad's trial where he was acquitted. For some reason, pay attention Bryan Anderson, Lori believes that setting some teacher up by having them accused of having sex with a student, preferably a teacher's aide, will yield tremendous financial gain for her. I don't see how it could. You see it numerous times with my father, Steven Fabian, Don Collins' father, Billy Duke's father and in the single case where she was actually the teacher's aide to the science teacher that had her removed after only one week.
She obviously blamed me for her inability to "get rich quick" because as soon as I started high school after the summer my father was acquitted, Lori blasted me with hate for weeks...it was pre-planned and violent. I, by the way, didn't even remember her name or anything about the two years previous when she tried to fuck the science teacher. I believe she was even calling his home and talking to his wife...
My girlfriends all told me that they thought she was a lesbian. Some of the guys said that too, but I didn't know or like her enough to care. Most of my friends didn't know her and many of them saw her verbally assault me on several occasions.
Unbeknown to me, at that time, was that Lori had a brother that was a drug addicted, gay man, that loved to dress as a female, that Lori liked to make stories up about. Not being one to be outdone by her brother or any sibling, Lori began her control of her brother long before this. It may be the beginning of another man rejecting her advances, a gay man, her brother. Lori began bad mouthing her brother to her mom and dad until the parents separated the two. We all know that Lori says that sex with her brother is "unsatisfying". I find that statement to be troubling on many levels, but the main level is sex with her brother. Say what you want, but this is what Jonathan Mendenhall told me and Kendrick Davis has witnessed and filmed it. Any denial by either of them now would probably be Lori or Brian pretending to be them online or text message. Remember though, Lori doesn't know ANY of my friends. Kendrick was my roommate and Jonathan I've known for decades.
Finding sexual partners in her "favorite year", which she tells people, was her sophomore year of high school, 1983. As most of us know, boys are hyper sexual, some anyway, at this age. I wasn't one of those. Lori earned herself a reputation as someone that was "easy". Some of the boys sought her out just to have sex with her, but Lori was far more interested in the problems she would cause. I actually witnessed one event where she was at a friend's house, both residents were out of high school, but Lori was there trying to sleep with the male. I also saw the female, a friend of mine, throw her out of the house. Rejection again. Lori would, later in life, try to cause problems for this woman again and again.
Someone told me that she was trying to get her father's attention by becoming pregnant, something, to this day, Lori has never been, but she has told people she's "had children" with Bryan Anderson. Not true. Lori is constantly seeking approval of her immediate audience.
My thought is this and it is only a theory. I believe that Lori has been violent toward her mother and father in the years since they refused to go along with her story about sleeping with the science teacher. She hated them for it. The attention alone would have made her happy, the only problem was, it never happened. It never does.
This is when I will get into Lori's overactive imagination. Boy is this one significant! Lori can look at a picture of a stranger and tell you everything about them. She has this ability to make believe things about people simply from their picture. He brother does this too. The problem is that it goes much farther than "make believe" when it involves the siblings. Literally, Lori could see someone walking down the street and pretend that the person hurt her or slighted her in some way and then her brother acts like it was true. Of course, by that time, Lori, the person in charge of Junior, in all aspects of his life, must then protect her by hurting the stranger. It has happened.
The undying fantasy can last a lifetime, just look at what she tells people about me. I never spoke to her in junior high school or high school and she's got all kinds of made up stories about me and my family. None of that shit is true, it's all make believe. Lori lives her life by it though as if it were reality. Strange but true, there are people out there that think they know you because they saw you once, or someone that looked like you.
To this day, Lori tells people that I was driving a car that ran over a kid that she pushed in front of it. She swears it is some kind of conspiracy that teachers have against her. The truth is that I wasn't there. The car's driver looks kinda like me, but he was with a friend of mine who Lori was in love with. How do I know that? There are movies where she makes her brother dress up like this girl and Lori dresses as her boyfriend, complete with his high school football jersey, and Lori has sex with "her". This is many many years ago that Lori knew these people. Both of them would describe Lori as crazy...both of them switched out of classes that they had with Lori because they were sure she was an escaped mental patient.
Lori will tell you that she "doesn't care what people think about her" and that, my friends, is the biggest lie of all. She craves popularity like oxygen. She honestly believes that "popularity" is something that people strive for. Um, not really. Celebrities may be the exception, but Lori's hatred for "popular people" is legendary. She hates them and knows that they all kept her from becoming popular...but that's not true either.
There are two things that Lori wants to be known as, besides the prettiest woman in the room, those are "funny" and "smart". She has either got to be the "funniest person" or the "smartest person", neither of which is capable of. She's not particularly bright and her sense of humor is less Dennis Miller and more Dennis the Menace. Her intelligence, well, um, she's learning disabled and learning dysfunctional. There is a problem with her ability to learn, but she also has no desire to learn. When you are already the "smartest person on Earth" there is no need to learn anything else. Drugs are a hugely significant part of her problem. She has little short term memory, so she has to write lists of things to do to hurt people and she never remembers who people are. Never. She doesn't know when something is funny or not. She has people read for her, write for her and generally feed her. She is dysfunction at the highest level. Other people in her state would probably be 5150'd until diagnosed.
This is what I know from high school.
Then there are the things that I've learned about since. Instead of maturing her way into the world the way most of us do, Lori spent most of her time behind a computer screen looking at what people thought about. She would create situations for someone to bring up her name so that she could get a look at how that person thought about her. (See Bryan Anderson for this one) Spending that kind of time on drugs and behind a computer screen, living in Warm Sands, surrounded by gay men, Lori's disdain for gay men grew even larger. Think about it. Here are two men, let's call the Beau and Brian, handsome, healthy, tanned and shirtless running around in the same area that bitter Lori, from above, was living.
Everyone loved Beau and Brian, trust me they still do. When you combine the fact that Lori was still following me at college, these two men, Lori seeks approval from, aren't the least bit interested in her...but perhaps the drugs Lori is selling might make them like her. In high school, Lori sold drugs to friends of mine then called their parents to rat them out. She liked causing problems, but where is the wisdom of a drug dealer that calls in her customers...you ain't gon make no money that way? This goes back to intelligence and also shows what is more important to Lori, making money or making problems? I would imagine back then that Beau and Brian may have met Lori through a friend. May have even bought something from her, but it didn't yield sex. Rejected, Lori made up a story about them to everyone, told her brother to implant them, then Lori did what she always does, try to break them apart by breaking them down mentally. Nothing more satisfying to Lori than effecting a change because of some perceived slight that she made up in her fantasy world where these guys would be fucking her. They're gay...still are.
It was around this time that I was implanted and infected in Palm Springs, California too. This is interesting by the way. Up until the time that I was implanted so that Lori could stalk me, I had a pretty good fresh start. U.C. Riverside was away from where we were from. Sure Lori sent a high school bully, a friend now, to my apartment and she wrote a letter pretending to be a girl I kissed at a party in high school, but for the most part, I didn't think I'd be running into her in Physics or Micro Biology....so I was happy. This is the thing, she had not had the chance to monitor my sex life, of which, there was none. She didn't know that I wasn't sexually experienced in any way when I went to Palm Springs and she implanted/infected me. So, when I got sick from the initial infection, there was no chance HIV was in the picture. Lori didn't know that. As sexual as she'd been, from what I saw on the baseball field and heard from Marc LeDrew, Lori knew her way around a penis or two. LOL!
She'd obviously done something to catch HIV...and with her growing hatred of gay men, this only fanned the flames. It was suggested and I'd probably believe that it came from a dirty needle not a dirty penis (Is there such a thing as a dirty penis? Now that I think about it...I've seen a dirty penis...ewww.... lol) So now you have this woman at the age of a 13 year old, HIV positive, angry, hurt and thinking she's gonna die, surrounded by gay men that she hates and blames for HIV. The split happened long ago, but the splinter that later became the branch, came when she decided to make people understand what she is going through. Not just gay men, but a few lesbians and heterosexual women. The loss of power in her sexual life, was now being fulfilled by the ability to take someone's life with HIV. I'm like her number one most hated fag from high school so when she got the opportunity to make me feel like her, I can't imagine what that must have been like for her growing sociopath.
A few days ago, I tried to tell everyone about the new breed of predator that will eventually take the place of the pre information age predator. There are levels of predator that range from cyber stalker to killer. For example, Phillip Markum, "The Craig's List Rapist" would be in the iP3 category where a man is placing an ad to actually have an encounter with them to commit a crime of violence. I believe Lori and Brian to be of the next level predator which was not explained by the www.predator.org website. iP4 predators go even farther in the information age, seeking to draw the information directly from the victim instead of having to stalk them by normal means. Obviously Lori and Brian at the iP3 level have a physical contact with the victim. He is unconscious, implanted, in some cases beaten and infected with HIV (Lori's "favorite thing", she tells her brother.)
What elevates these stalkers is that they seek to make the victim a part of the computer so that access to them can be non stop, infrequent and all of a sudden. It is a continuous crime that allows the predator access to his/her victim at any time. For the first time in history, even under police protection, the perpetrator can threaten the target any time, day or night, without anyone being able to stop them. Can you imagine the kinds of threats that these men have heard? What's worse, the police can also be misled in these situation so that they treat a suspect that Lori hates, much differently. Since we're all gay men, this makes it a hate crime. Targeting of individuals to transform them from human being to human being that is interfaced with a computer. Big brother indeed. There is a huge difference between being a human being than a human being hooked up to a though deciphering computer, placed on a website and oogled at by other predators who learn about your every private thought. Let's face it, your priest probably isn't on this website. My entire life is stored on a disc someplace. It's strange...I mean I didn't know it would happen. I always thought something like this would be like the movies where you track someone their whole life by choice.
So the iP4 chooses to control you, like a rapist, but all the time without your permission. He or she have all the same characteristics of other internet predators, but they like to interact with you for an extended period of time. In my case since 1987, the year I got HIV. They like to determine the outcome or put the person in fear or peril. They steal from the target, they get them fired, the steal their car, they call the police. These people are functional only within the world they live in. They can barely tear themselves away from the lives that they channel into a pen. Complete control means that nobody escapes them to something better than they have. I think at this point, once the siblings had moved this technology to Palm Springs, the sky was the limit for several reasons.
I don't know if Lori is motivated by revenge for the HIV infection or if it is the rejection she gets from gay men. This is where the splinter happens again...Lori has an affinity, or more like, a complete obsession with gay male porn. Some hetero women may watch this, but mostly Lori has more gay porn than a San Francisco DVD Adult ONLY store, maybe two. There is always porn playing somewhere in Lori's home. Combine the computer, with drugs, with gay porn...and in a body like Lori's, this becomes her entire universe. The only contact with these victims, in person, has to be drugged. In some cases women were raped, these encounters suggest that Lori has a thing for women, photos included. Her own sexuality finally unleashed in a situation where the victim will have no memory but Lori will have trophies. In other cases with women, they are brutalized, skull broken, nipple bitten nearly off and bite marks. The vagina ain't left alone either...the men get the same. This phenomenon is talked about in Dr. John Hall's book, "A New Breed: Satellite Terrorism in America".
In Hall's book, his girlfriend is repeatedly raped and drugged in her home when they knew John would be away. She would get STD's and experience bruising and he would take her to the hospital. Eventually Dr. Hall was able to tape the men and proved it. This all took place in San Antonio, TX
So when you look at the psychology behind the implantation and infection, you have to realize that Lori is the person that infected her own brother. We know that he is infected because she ran around telling people that I'd infected him, but we know through genotyping that the initial infection between the two was female to male. He is also the male that she was able to control in her family so keeping him around was necessary. He could do the dirty work, until Lori wanted to come over, then the pair would play out their separate fantasies. Brian and sex with a man. Lori, her rape and control over one. Often times Brian would have to stop Lori before she killed someone. Jonathan knows about this too. One sibling has one fantasy, one has another. Of course, Lori's fantasy is to direct men. That's not something I'm in to at all. She dresses like a boy, thinks she talks like a boy, but I think she is manifesting all the men that rejected her in her life. What was once a sexual playground for her, became a source of utter frustration.
The more she hated homosexual men, the more she wanted to "teach them a lesson" about respecting a woman. Forget that they never met her and never wronged her, all men are the same, especially the gay ones. A woman has to teach a man how to behave. Since the inception, Lori thought of controlling all the gay men she could, but she needed help. The police became her greatest ally. She knew Bryan Anderson's name from me, but she probably knew him in 29 Palms as military brats. He was already a cop, but how that implantation happened, we don't know. That's Bryan's story to tell. From there, lies were told and alliances were made between cops and Lori, who still is the ONLY PERSON that talks to the police. NO OTHER WOMAN, NO NEW GIRL ON THE JOB EITHER. It's always been Lori and always will be.
Using Bryan, Lori lured other cops into this system by telling them that it was required by the department or a "special thing" that only they were involved with. Blah, blah, blah. Look, if someone approaches you and wants to stick something inside your body, say no. That's just ridiculous. It's not even in a medical setting. If you can't talk about it to your Chief or other officers, it's probably illegal. So now you have cops that are not smart enough to say no to chipping, so you know they aren't going to do anything but listen to Lori's Stories About The Gays. We're not talking the sharpest pencils.
The police get one impression of gay men from Lori and she helps them with arrests. She gets off on hurting someone else that rejected her (or would have...which I find odd.) How can you punish someone you don't know for something you know would have happened? Lori's made more assumptions to keep her in police files for years and years and her career as a drug dealer meant that she could monitor the police just in case someone reported her. If they did, she used the name "Jessica" or "Lisa" or "Victoria" or "Sara", so the person reporting her could be found and dealt with.
False identity was then traded by Lori for a new name, no longer could she be Lori LaFond, afterall, Bryan knew who that was. As, another person, she could be fabulous, popular, fun, a party girl...but then there was that face. Nobody ever forgot that face and frown. You see, Lori liked to think a new name would bring her happiness, but that face always brought her back to mom and dad. She would be Lori LaFond to some, forever, like high school kids. To some she was Lori, but what is she calling herself now? To some she was, "What name are you using now Lori?"
The need for popularity grew into an urban legend in the gay community. The number of infections, coupled with all of the arrests, the Warm Sands problems and so much more, Lori thought she was popular, but infamous and popular are two very different things. There is such thing as bad advertising. Lori's reputation went from easy small town hick homophobe to Palm Springs Fag Hag Pretend Cop Girl. If she was hated in high school, she was down right vilified in Palm Springs and other Southern California cities; not that I would have blamed them.
So this is how we're going to leave this for now...there is a ton more to be said over then next few nights. This is a small taste of stream of consciousness writing from the aspiring author of the book on Lori. Like Ann Rule's, "The Stranger Beside Me", the author knew the serial and the book has been one of the best true crime sellers of all time. It is the quintessential book on Ted Bundy, written from the perspective that sat next to him at work.
