I guess, in a way, I was very lucky to have seen the girl that would grow into the urban legend from a very early age. Of course there are many times when I think, "What would have happened if I never met her?" Those thoughts are then replaced by the notion that if someone didn't know her the way that I do, we might never have known who was behind the human experiment in our community. Is it a blessing or a curse? It all depends upon how I decide to handle the situation. For the first time since I've known her, I have the upper hand. I think I'll start by telling you more.
I think I may have indicated previously that the warning signs were always there. Hindsight provides me with the opportunity to tell you that Lori LaFond was an urban legend in the making for a long time. When you know what and who she grew up to be, it is never shocking to anyone that knew her then. There were several indicators that would lead anyone to believe that, left unchecked, she would become a disaster.
Like most sociopaths, Lori has this opinion that "if everyone just thought the way I do, then everything would be perfect." Perfect for what though? Perfect for her to manipulate and control others to do what she wanted, is probably the best answer.
Initially let's talk about her relationship with drugs.
I am a recovering and sober drug addict. I know drugs. I know drug dealers. I've seen it done many ways. Lori and Brian used this system to see that and they know it is true. I don't deny it because that is part of the story. Since they know my history, let me tell you theirs.
From what I gather, Lori was using drugs about the time she hit junior high school or probably just before. Her desire to control adults, however, was present years before that which I've seen and experienced through my father and mother's tribulations with her. By the way, my mom and dad still, to this day, do not know that Lori LaFond was behind all of those problems. She doesn't know what she did to have my father arrested. I'm imagining that it gave her a feeling of power and control that she hadn't had before. It was in our newspaper all the time. Lori even cut out articles from the newspaper, highlighted them, then put them in our mailbox without postage. Lori's aunt and uncle lived across the street from my family growing up. I don't remember ever seeing her there though. The articles were edited with hateful statements and derogatory remarks. I would take them out of the mailbox before my mom or dad could see them...I hated the way it made them feel.
Drugs, for me, were a way to escape the pain of the situations that Lori caused. Being stalked the way I was, is harrowing. The thing that you learn is that one of the premises of Lori's plan was using other people to harass someone so that she didn't get caught. I am pretty much thinking that drugs then came into play as a barter for injuring me, later others.
Once Lori had verbally assaulted me at school and other places, I'm pretty sure she told her parents or someone from the school told her parents. She was likely warned not to continue. Telling Lori, "No", is not effective. You might as well have said, "That's funny, you should do it every day now." That's what it was like. Lori would then get drugs from her brother and find the kids that were on the fringe between education and drug abuse. I was completely oblivious at the time. As it turns out, she found one friend of mine that wanted drugs more than he wanted to be my friend. She would trade drugs for ambushes with him, hoping to bait me into a fight. He also had friends and they began to join in. So Lori, had a tiny gang of misfits that would try to beat me up for drugs. Drugs, for Lori, then became more than just something to get high with. She could get her way with them too. As you can imagine, this made my life Hell at school. I had to be extra careful not to be in a position to get hurt. I honestly thought that they would kill me.
In addition to using drugs to swap for violence or bullying, Lori had another plan too. She started looking at my friends then enticing them with pot. Some of the members of my basketball team were the targets. They would leave school, go home before practice, get high and then come to practice. So I'm accurate, Tom Shiley, Kevin Cole, Joe Estrada and Scott Davenport were the guys...who inevitably bought pot from her. Then, when they weren't expecting it, Lori would use things like the Morongo Unified School District's employee phone book to find their parents...one of these guys parents was the principle or superintendent at that time. After securing the pot was in one of their possession, she would call their parents and tattle on them. Seriously, she would use the military phone book the same. So, good friends of mine were being busted by their parents even in high school. I saw one confrontation myself!!!
Two of the kids got severely reprimanded...my friends. This would become a later theme of her terror with me. My friends were targets, but she didn't know who they were from seeing them at school with me. Lori missed a lot of school. What she did do, however, was steal all four of my high school yearbooks after college, so that she could continue this kind of harassment of my friends. They, of course, would grow up, out grown this kind of behavior and have families of their own. Like me, I never thought about someone like Lori continuing to try to hurt us. It didn't seem like these guys knew it was Lori telling on them either. They saw her abuse me verbally, saw the guys she gave drugs to, trying to beat me up, but they didn't think that the person that sold them pot was the person that turned them in. Remember that...
On the one occasion that I bought pot, it was a situation where one of my best friends, Jamie Haag, liked to smoke it. I had a job and money and he wanted some so I gave him money to buy his own pot. He then, surprisingly, gave me half. He got that pot from Lori LaFond, told me so, and I was surprised but she'd already graduated from high school so I wasn't concerned. As usual, Lori asked him who the pot was for and he said me. Lori took absolutely no time in telling my sister that I have marijuana and that she should tell my parents. I looked for it and it was gone...my sister found this well hidden stash...and she flushed it down the toilet and scolded me. I thought it was funny and strange that she even knew I had it. How could she have known? In some ways I think that is why she started wondering, years later, who her customers were partying with. Let's face it, it worked before, with my sister and friends in high school...so...oh yeah, by the way, my sister isn't the kind of person to snoop or scold me for pot. She did though...and I've always wondered.
As you can see, Lori's relationship with drugs wasn't usual, it was purposeful. She used drugs, certainly, but what they could do for her was cause big problems for other people. She learned that tattling could take care of the problem she had and make her feel good. This also gave her the opportunity to talk to my sister, like another sister with a gay brother. That wasn't the case at the time, but it became the case years later as she kept tattling on me over the years.
One point that I would like to address is the transition from child to adult for Lori. I've spoken with professionals, they agree that there is no way that Lori's parents didn't have some idea of what she was like. With that understanding, you can see that it was important for them to reign her in as much as possible for their sake and the safety of others. Instead of living in the main part of town or the marine corp base, they lived in an outlying community called Sunfair Heights. This was something that kept Lori from causing problems to most of the families that lived in town. Not mine, but most of theirs. So what seemed restrictive to Lori was actually a response from her family to keep her out of trouble, them out of trouble and the rest of us away from her. Lori resented that more than usual.
What I have learned is that instead of focusing her bullying on the kids and families in town, she terrorized the community that she did live in. The newspapers were full of more allegations caused by Lori, but nobody knew the full story. Soon, stories about things like my father had been through, were popping up out in the tiny community where she DID live. Other accounts of molestation between men and their kids and between families that were best friends.
Oh, before I forget, I also want to include something else that I noticed. There were lots of kids that left school because of Lori and usually after an act of violence occurred. Andy Barton, Teresa and Billy Duke, Donald Collins, Doug Cobalis, James Jones, Becky Lawless and a few others that considered leaving but talked to her parents instead. These people above all had serious run ins with Lori LaFond. Accusation, breaking windows in the middle of the night, pushing a kid under a car, burning down a garage and others. Some of these kids were teacher's kids...another theme Lori has. Lori simply terrorized these people and they eventually left. I know how I felt but that really wasn't an option for me. I can guarantee you that when I left for college, I felt like I'd escaped a violent criminal. There are others that will tell you that too.
In fact, the dark element that was at school was attributed to her. When she wasn't there, things were much more peaceful. I've heard that she talked to everyone on the school bus she took to and from school about me, my father and sister. It was constant. There are some kids I didn't know or understand why we weren't friends...it was basically because of Lori's threats or warnings. All unfounded.
You can only imagine the disappointment that she must have felt after six years of torturing my family with my father then me, when I graduated and left for Riverside, California. I felt like I escaped her...and I felt like I was able to avoid the severe beating she wanted to have these boys do for her. I missed lots of parties, but in a way, I became more independent and did things that other kids didn't do. As soon as I graduated I fled this small town, never wanting to return.
One thing that I've learned is that there were kids being implanted while her parents were working out in Sunfair Heights. So while Lori was at school, her brother, at home was able to listen in on them. So early in their career, it was clear to see that this system was in it's infancy with them. How could the two siblings use this stolen technology to manipulate people and get rich quick. Lori would spend less time at school and more time at her brother's home which was in 29 Palms near the Marine Corp Base entrance on Condor Curve. The location of his residence plays big in the furtherance of this crime after I graduated.
I think that it was when Lori realized that she could still keep track of me while I was in college that she shifted from bully to full blown stalker, though some might disagree when you see the level of thought she put in to hurting me in high school. Literally it was a full time job for her.
Here's how that worked. Remember the guys she sold pot to and then called their parents about? One of those people was Joe and he lived extremely close to where Lori's brother Brian was living. He had a girlfriend that was my best friend's sister. She was like my sister too. A year older than both of us, she lived with my sister at Cal State San Bernardino, I think Bessie Smith was there too. This boyfriend Joe would play a critical part in keeping tabs on me and establishing Lori as a tattletale to my best friend.
First, my best friend, also Kevin, moved into the college dorms together, then an apartment and then he and his sister (Joe's girlfriend) moved into a home that they bought. While we were living in the dorm, I remember getting that strange letter from a girl I kissed one time in high school. I'd seen her hundreds of times after that, we were friendly, but she showed no animosity at all towards me. We were friends. The letter I got, was anything but. This is another theme that Lori has in her "torture", sending letters for other people.
The letter, as I stated before, said that this girl, "...thought she saw me standing in front of her garage door at home (she was still in high school) so she drove her car through the door thinking she'd hit me." I thought the letter to be freaky. I showed it to my best friend, he kind of laughed it off. The letter then said she had moved over seas and was a model. I was non plussed. The letter was meant to scare me. It didn't.
Joe, was living in 29 Palms at the time, I believe, while we were in school but he told everyone that he was training to become a police officer. We all believed him. He's the nicest guy I know and had no reason to lie. Come to find out, it wasn't true, but he ended up with a huge dislike of Lori LaFond and so did his girlfriend, now wife. I've been told that it was Lori that made up the "cop training" using Bryan Anderson as some kind of contact person...but she was really just using Joe to spy on people. One night, Joe, had a near fatal accident when his car went off the road and hit a power pole. The same exact thing happened to me too, but in my case, someone drugged me and I felt asleep...I wonder if the same thing happened to him. I know I couldn't keep my eyes open.
People were following me everywhere at this time, was Joe one of those people for someone else that Lori was watching? He would never have spied on me, but did Lori lie to him and tell him something different so that he would spy on another person for her? I don't know, seems possible. This issue is a personal one for Joe and his wife, but I'm hoping that this project will help bring a clearer resolution to that story. Just like I am trying to do for my father, I am trying to put the strangeness into context. Yes, there was an odd circumstance with Joe, but he would never "break bad" like what it looks like. He's too incredible of a person, so is his wife. Was it Lori? Did she meddle in their lives too? I know she did once prior when she called my best friend's father to bust him for having a joint in his sock drawer. I know my best friend will remember that. What he still doesn't know is that behavior continued with Lori for a very long time afterwards.
Bryan Anderson would be perfect to explain this situation to Joe and his wife. He knows him and knows that I'm telling the truth. To avoid Lori lying to them, I wish he would talk to them both so I don't have to have another confrontation. I'm trying to heal their family from this..just like my father's case. Both of our families are extremely close and I've been the "bad person" for so long, it would be great to be the guy that actually was good all along. I'm not who they made me out to be...Lori and Brian, but behind my back they put together an impressive lie about me that stuck.
So the transition from high school bully to professional stalker had it's roots in her high school experience and before. What she then turned in to, is thereby understandable if you know the sociopath and her behaviors. She is the extreme and she is a sadist, but the sociopath controls.
My first year of college, though the best year of my life, was still a period where Lori was getting bits and pieces of my story told to her from friends. I'm sure she was already making up stories.
It is at this time, I would like to say that there were so many similarities between what I grew up knowing and what eventually transpired that when I heard the name Lori LaFond, the transition from, "Who did this to me," to, "God, that's the only person I know that would do something like this, I'm not surprised!" Tattletaling, drug selling, my sister knowing more than she should, my friends started treating me weird, then, after stealing my first cell phone, she had a list of my fraternity brothers...and from there the strangeness continued. What I felt in high school had begun again...someone was looking to hurt me, emotionally and physically. You will see later, evidence that proves that both Lori and Brian were having some physical contact with me even then.
What use to be "play time" with her brother was the beginning of social control for the gay community of Palm Springs, California. A moral barometer for the gay community was going to be established by a woman that hated us and a brother that was afraid to join us because of her. You'd never see Brian at a gay bar, for instance, but you would see Lori at a topless bar for women too. The double standard of the alpha and sub had been cemented. Lori would serve as the barometer of gay morals and Brian would help her do that.
While that was happening, Lori was selling drugs to my brother in law. My sister didn't know it was Lori LaFond and had no idea how much trouble Lori had caused us in the past. They weren't friends in high school or any time afterwards, as far as I knew, but over the last ten years I got a text from my sister saying that the two "...had kept in contact over the years off and on"...that was news to me. I'd heard lots of stories about someone "outing me" to my friends and telling them that I has "HIV"...then that message. The pieces fit well. The stalking that I was going through, the problem that my sister was going through with her husband and other feelings made me believe that "meth" was a common thread.
I think it was at my ten year reunion that people were being "understanding" about my sexuality and quiet about the HIV. I didn't really know why they knew anything but I was grateful that they wanted to talk about it. By then, I was openly gay and lived in the gay community of San Diego, Hillcrest. It wasn't a secret. I'd had a boyfriend that I loved for three or four years at that point. The best person was my friend Korina, who Lori LaFond can't stand, she talked to me and remained one of my best supporters. Korina had run ins with Lori before and to this day, I haven't brought it up with her. She knows I have HIV, but she doesn't know that Lori is the person suspected of giving it to me. I think that it is important to note that I don't tell my friends things like that while I'm here because she is here too and Lori is far more aggressive about keeping her secrets than I am about being correct about her.
Okay so we're talking about the period between 1987 and 1992 roughly at this point. I am at college and Lori is living in Palm Springs, California as near as I can tell. She is coming to 29 Palms to deliver drugs to my brother in law and others. I was then implanted with this RFID chip in the summer of 1987 and got sick in December that year. I dropped out of the winter session at college and came home to recover. That was the first shock of my life...somehow...with no sex, drugs or needles, I became HIV positive and it was like, now I'm gay by disease and Lori is telling everyone she was right about me in high school. Not that it mattered, I just got HIV! It's like I walked outside and got HIV.
Eventually I returned to college with a whole new twist. I had a group of stalkers following me everywhere I went. Lori must have learned a new technique of having people follow her targets in other places. Riverside is not far from Palm Springs, but like an hour and a half so...not so hard to find people to follow me and take photos. They were in my work, they followed me down the freeway, they were following me on my college campus...and I wasn't using anything. They were there in force. They were so physical of a presence I was frightened to death. I had to work full time, go to school full time and the rest of the time I was being followed. It started to scare me, first I smoked pot to try to relax, but then it turned to meth. It seemed to calm me down as opposed to other people. I'd never used drugs before, maybe pot or beer at a fraternity thing, but now I was like an alcoholic with alcohol. Mostly still pot!
Trying to cope with HIV and not knowing how it happened was hard. Recovering from the conversion was near impossible. Getting good grades while working full time had been hard enough before, but now, with stalkers, my life was a high speed chase every single time I went to school or work. That's what it felt like, whether anyone noticed or not, I did. Someone once told me that Christopher had a period of "doing well" with Lori, then "the darkness set in" again. That's a quote from my friend. I think the similarity between what I experienced in high school was now beginning in college after I returned. Instead of a group of druggie boys, Lori found a new group of people to try to hurt me...and they were everywhere. The darkness of high school had set in again and it felt the same.
Soon friends that I'd had for years or from the first year of college began whispering and acting weird...the isolation game began. This is another theme that Lori and Brian have with this technology. It is much easier to stalk a person that is alone than when he is in a group of people that support him. Taking that support away then became important for Lori, she now had a stole cell phone of mine and she was going to use it.
Though I was a remote victim of her hate, remember, Lori was also in Warm Sands with lots of porn and homosexuals to hate. She had her system of mind reading, a healthy appetite to spread HIV in a community that she could hide it in (nobody would suspect a woman with all these "promiscuous gay men" of spreading AIDS virus...so she poisoned us to the police with stories of orgies, sex parties, non safe sex and drugs. The phone calls to police started and the Legend of Lisa had begun; only then it was the Legend of Sara, then Victoria, then Jessica, then Sheree and finally Lisa.)
What she was developing and how it was manifesting itself appears to be with arrests, theft of bank accounts, fraudulent credit cards, drug dealing and rumor spreading about gay men in her area. She would develop, over time, a system of surveillance that would begin with a rape and end with the victim being put in jail or prison with HIV virus that they couldn't explain by a woman they didn't know.
I know, where did she find the time? Well, she didn't do anything but this...check her tax record and social security number. Apparently crime does not pay taxes, but it does allow you to survive until 51 years old. How that happened is next.
What I will say is this. Lori has a problem with letting her past mistakes go, so she tries to perfect the crimes that she bungled before on new people. Steve Fabian, would take over my father's role as the teacher/coach that Lori would have accused of having sex with next. It, like my father's case, was all over the newspapers. He is a friend of my family, Bryan Anderson and the whole Palm Springs community...the crime, when I read it, sounded so familiar I began to look into Lori's role. You won't believe her audacity.
Lori's decent into madness in a "world that doesn't understand her" begins to make more sense when you realize that her survival is based on other people's lives. She's a life predator more than a sexual predator, but one begets the other. Never satisfied, Lori begins to see the fruits of her labor in a city with a community of gay men, mostly implanted for her pleasure. Figure, 650 gay men between the ages of 20-50 years old and this isn't the biggest city in the world. 47,689 is the population. If ten percent of that is gay...that would be roughly 4800 people. If half of that is lesbian and the other gay male...2400 of those are gay men. This would mean that one of every 3 men in Palm Springs was implanted with these devices. Most of those had problems with the law or HIV intentional infection or both. That's one third of our people, that is a holocaust before the use of current AIDS drugs. If we are one fifth of a population and 30% of that fifth is being implanted and infected, that is an inordinately high amount of people. When compared to other sectors of the community, this crime is almost completely gay men.
The staggering fact is that someone targeted the gay community for experimentation and destroyed their subjects lives with made up crime and AIDS/Bacterial Staph infections. I stagger to think of what the cost is for keeping 650 people alive that were infected by the police department's snitch. You gotta wonder what the cost would have to be, to be too high?
Okay, so I didn't go where I wanted to go tonight which was developing what happened from the time Lori left high school, she said she had a "four year relationship" with Bryan Anderson. Some people tole me she said she'd married him and others said she had kids with him, but I know him well enough to know that isn't true. So that's her side of the story during these years...I tell you what I know now. That's where we'll head tomorrow night.
Kevin
