I need some of you to do something for me. If you know this story and you know how to get ahold of Christopher, I want you to ask him something for me. "What in the world would you do if Kevin was doing the same thing to you that you and your mother are doing to him?"
For so long now, I have been living with this ticking time bomb right down the street from me. Nobody is doing anything to protect my family or me from this monster that has killed so many without hesitation. There are people protected by the police that are working on the theory that "their lives are in danger because of this woman". Unfortunately those people don't live anywhere near her and they know where she is every minute of the day. How then, after all of the things that she has done to me and my family, am I not in the same kind of danger that they are? For some reason, Jeffrey makes that distinction on economic lines. If your family is wealthy, then he sees your life as, at risk. If you have been stalked by this woman for 30 years, your brother in law killed, infected with HIV at 19, your father accused of a horrible crime when you were 10...then you are not at risk. This all has to do with income level...and Jeffrey's need to control my life.
Jeffrey sees my family as lower class because my father is a 74 year old construction worker that still goes to work almost every day of his life. My mom, doesn't work, she's retired. So on his scale of importance...bottom rung. I can tell you that it is offensive, but I have a feeling that he enjoys that kind of superiority. If he doesn't, then why would he spy on us for the last 9 years? I think it somehow reminds him that he is "lucky" to be where he is, that he doesn't have the worries of middle class retirees. What he doesn't see is that between both of my parents are decades of classy and heroic efforts by two incredible people to help anyone that asked...most of the time for free. Jeffrey doesn't do anything for free. His time is so much more valuable than anyone else's.
My problem with Christopher is growing. He continues to follow the poor relationship advice given to him by a man that almost never spends time with his own family. Absent is what he is when he is working...and he engages during the weekend if he can possibly get away. Christopher is enamored by a man that came from New York and made it in California because his WIFE did all of the hardest things. He doesn't realize that I TOO HAVE DONE ALL OF THE HARDEST THINGS FOR OUR RELATIONSHIP, while he enjoys what I've made for us. Taking relationship advice from Jeffrey is about the same as taking relationship advice from a chair...sometimes you sit in it, sometimes you don't...but it's just a chair, not any kind of expert. Jeffrey is lucky. His wife accepts his terrible skills at being on time, being present, being a father all the time....she accepts it because that is what she wants. Not what I want. I don't need or want an absent boyfriend and I certainly don't want Jeffrey part 2.
Christopher has accepted this man's invitation to watch me get tortured by the same little girl bully that has always tortured me. Christopher accepted that invitation even though I am not far away. Day after day he listens while this horrible homosexual hating woman berates me from sunrise to sunset over and over again. He does nothing about it. Just listens. Kind of like Jeffrey does on a speaker phone when his wife is here in the desert and he's in Los Angeles...there, but not present.
Christopher has turned into a mini Jeffrey...unconcerned about the day to day maintenance of our relationship and leaving that all up to me. When he needs something, he use to show up...now he doesn't even do that. In essence, Jeffrey has become his new boyfriend. It's as if he is grooming him to become his youngest son's boyfriend while he treats me like shit right in front of Christopher. Christopher doesn't listen any more...you have to repeat yourself ten times before he does anything....now he's being a stubborn as Christopher usually is and as unbothered as Jeffrey. Why? He didn't do anything to maintain our relationship...not one single thing. I did.
His son has or had a boyfriend named Robert Baker. A super nice guy that is really smart and funny. He's also been shunned by Jeffrey. It's as if Jeffrey is deciding his youngest son's friends for him. This is a man that can't decide whether or not to wear a black cardigan or a black cardigan most days...yet here he is trying to decide whom belongs with whom. Personally, both Robert and I deserve better than what his son and what my boyfriend are treating us like. Neither one of us did anything but help others to stay sober and avoid Laurie, yet Jeffrey balks at the thought of ALL of us being around each other...only the people he chooses.
Personally, I feel sorry for Robert. What he doesn't know is that for Benjamin, life isn't nearly as painful as it is for us. We have to toil with Laurie constantly harassing both of us, telling lies and harassing us online. Benjamin has a house full of my friends that use to like being around me, but have traded up for a life of Jeffrey. I guess Robert and I don't have the "kind of families" that Jeffrey approves of. Now he'll say that isn't true, but how many time has Jeffrey called you Robert and told your mother what was going on? He told Christopher's mom. In fact, he's told Christopher's mom lots of things that he planned to do for Christopher and I, but, I'm 10 minutes away, think I've ever been invited over for anything? Nope. Not one single thing. How about you Robert? See, we don't measure up to the Katzenberg standard...we're worker bees.
Robert, here's the truth as I see it. Both you and I know who Laurie really is. She's right over there if you haven't noticed. You probably know her as Jessica. That's not her real name. I did go to high school with her and she's about as lowly as a flea bag motel bed bug, yet Jeffrey continues to extend this entire process so that my boyfriend gets to know yours better. You and I, don't get any opportunity to see either. You get phone calls when Jeffrey allows it. I don't even get that. Jeffrey is playing matchmaker. He does this alot. Funny thing is, he hated the thought of Christopher being anywhere near Benjamin, didn't even care when he went to jail. He'd been watching me for years. As soon as Jeffrey got the chance though...he raced to have Christopher summonsed to Benjamin's place. Not very nice of him since I live right down the road is it?
Both Robert and I are outcasts. We are on the edge of this crime that Jeffrey doesn't see fit to help. My suggestion to Robert is to move on...that's the same advice I give to myself knowing what our "boyfriends" are up to. I can't seem to follow it though. I haven't seen Christopher in about 8 years...mostly because Jeff won't allow it. Neither of us deserve to be treated like second class citizens and both of us are three times the people that these two are. I say "move on" but I know what he will think, just like I do, neither of these two use to act this way. They both love us, right? I don't know that love watches torture. I don't think that a father has the right to make these kinds of decisions for people he didn't even want to know. He certainly doesn't want to know me...and I know that he's already shunned Robert from being involved too. Hang in there Robert...someone deserves someone like you.
Lastly, what I think is sad about Christopher is his absolute betrayal of our promise to one another and the promise he made to his mom not to change when he went to Benjamin's. He's passive. He's agreeable. He pleasant. All in the face of me being tortured and my family being stalked. That's not the boyfriend that I am looking for...that's Steven Frey. I already dated him to my disappointment. What a complete and total let down as a friend he turned out to be. He lied right to my father's face...and I get the feeling that if asked to do so by Jeffrey, that Christopher would do the same. Jeffrey has this way about him...do it or else. I think he's a poor reflection of what my father is. My dad is stand up. Real and everyone relies on him because he never lets anyone down. Guess that shows you what Christopher values...and absent father with money over substance and family values. Sad.
