So you wonder why you? I did for a long time too. The truth is that someone with malignant narcissism can target you for a variety of reasons, but it doesn't mean you are a shit magnet either. You are who you are, but what they see is something of an advantage for them, even if you don't know who they are. For some of these people, not knowing you is a huge advantage. This is why I wanted to expose the people involved in Lori's organization so that you knew what they were up to. Here are the reasons I got from NarcissistAbuseSupport.com . It may help you understand your role in Lori and Missy's sickness.
Money – they want it and it’s a whole lot easier to take yours than it is to work for their own.
Sex – they want it and they are so passionate, and they make it safe because you are different from anyone else in their lives.
Eye candy – have you noticed that many victims of narcissistic abuse are beautiful.
Your mind – they love to snag a smart person. Because if they really were an evil
abuser wouldn’t this smart person be smart enough to see them as they really are. You are their cover for normal.
Your assets – having a home or being financially secure is VERY appealing.
Responsibility – if they are not responsible then they need someone that can be that for them, make them somehow responsible by proxy.
Idealist – If you are a dreamer and believe there is good in all people. They quickly see you will give them many chances and believe in the good they will initially see in you.
Good listener – You show compassion for others and listen and empathize with people they begin the storytelling saga to pull you in.
Loyalty – being loyal to people is something that we easily show on our sleeve and a narcissist will make you loyal to them and then as they manipulate you, your loyalty will be held in question and they will use it against you to give them a second, third, and 20th chances.
Integrity – If you stand up for what is right, keep promises, and act consistently with good values, principles, and beliefs, they will consider it a challenge to break you. They believe that you will stay longer because you have good values.
Forgiveness – if you display signs that you believe in forgiveness and you can let go of someone’s mistakes then once again, they see opportunity. They have now stamped the box that
you will forgive them repeatedly.
Responsible – if you are the type of person who takes responsibility for personal choices, once again this will be used against you.
Spiritual – spiritual people are generally compassionate and trusting. They might claim to be spiritual to hook you but display no traits of a spiritual person.
Empathic and compassionate – if you are empathic, you are perfect bait because all they must do is build a story that tunes into your empathy. An empathic person feels others' pain and does everything possible to improve it.
Your career could be a vulnerability – if you have a good job/career, you will be better able to provide money and assets.
Your kids – If you are empathic, caring, and kind, they get the trifecta to serve their needs. You will also make a good mom or dad for the children they will use only as cover as a good family man or woman. Without you they would not know how to parent, they use the kids as a reflection of themselves. If the kids are great, they take credit, if there are any issues with the kids then they have you to blame – no responsibility on them.
