It's so much more than people would think. When you have a remote neural stalker, you have a person that does more than eavesdrop or film you in the shower, you have someone that is looking to take more than anyone else could. Lori LaFond likes to impact the victims' lives more than any regular stalker could. HIV infection was her favorite tool to cause heartache, pain, and death, but there are many ways that she tries to humiliate and hurt a victim that most people haven't considered.
Remember, we were raped to become these "playthings" for her. So when a victim of this crime finally learns how this crime is committed, it's a bigger violation than many stalking victims have. For me, it was the realization that my high school bully had become a serial killer. Of course, I had to go through a lot of thinking about whether or not Lori LaFond was capable of these kinds of crimes, but it was an easy step to believe it was her. Once I heard her talking to me, it reminded me of what she said to me in high school It was so hateful and filled with violent anger, that I recognized it from my past.
For many years Lori, who is not my sister's friend, called her and told her things about my life. This played into the relationship I have with her. When you consider what Lori orchestrated in her life, you can understand that exploiting mine would give my sister cause to act differently. It's really only now that we have regained our closeness and relationship. Lori just loved hating on me. For example, if I had a bag of marijuana on me, she would call my sister and tell her where it was. This is who she grew into in Palm Springs. If a family member wasn't around for Lori to contact and disappoint, she would call the police and defame the rape victim to the police department. Soon, there wasn't a gay man in Palm Springs, that wasn't promiscuous, using meth, infected with HIV and "into rough sex".
That's not my experience at all. I should know, I'm a gay man from Palm Springs.
When you realize that Lori smashes in skulls, has an overactive sex drive with testosterone, has HIV and doesn't get any treatment, steals from the homes of gay men that she's raped and has a proclivity for the darker side of sex, you start to understand that the homosexual stereotype that she perpetuates with family and police, is simply just hers...she's the rapist, she's the one that wants people arrested so that she can steal from them to keep her in drugs and money. For years now, I am sure that Lori's been trying to put together some kind of "proof of income" but let's face it, if you didn't pay taxes then and you aren't now...your primary job is probably criminal. It's no wonder she had to make friends with the police using a lie. The big problem with that is that they know Lori does this kind of crime...she's the "only person that talks to the police"; that's one of her steadfast rules. If you flip it and think about a rapist, drug dealer, homophobe, wouldn't this be the kind of relationship with law enforcement that she would want? Who better to keep her out of trouble than the police?
When you look at this crime removing Lori LaFond as the "perpetual victim, nosey ass gossip" that she is, you start to understand that your suspect pool is limited. Of course, she has a brother that is homosexual, she had to have someone to hate from the beginning...because her parents aren't homophobes. By the time she ran into me her hatred of gay men was huge and obvious. Lori doesn't think of her brother as handsome and he falls very short in the penis category...so he's not the most promiscuous of guys and he doesn't really fulfill her need to get involved with other gay men like more social gay guys can be. Let's just say he's not the kind of guy that would have gotten her closer to the gay elite party crowd. Sure he does lots of drugs, but he's kind of obnoxious, smelly and overweight, not that it's all that important, but he's got his own way of being gay. There are many ways to be a gay man...it's not all porn stars and bartenders. This infuriates Lori who asks him, "Why can't you be more like...," all the time?
Unfortunately, I was different than her brother and much more to her "gay stereotype" in some ways. The more she watched, the more envious she became. Just like in high school, I had the prettiest girlfriends. This made Lori very jealous, especially when you consider that one of them went to her mom and told her that she was rude, was approaching her as a lesbian and she wanted it stopped. She was also the girl in the car the night Lori shoved one of her friends under a moving car. I end up perceived by Lori as "the reason" she has no success with women or men. I'm not either of those things.
I guess sociopaths need someone to blame from what I've studied.
For decades I didn't know that someone was watching my thoughts and planning my demise. I knew people were physically following me and then there was the shooting. I wrote about it for years in my diaries. It was when her brother first started talking to me via "microwave hearing" that I was pretty sure this was part of the urban legend I'd heard about from friends in San Diego. Eventually, Lori began screaming at me about how "You LOOK LIKE YOU HAVE AIDS!!!" It reminded me immediately of my first encounter, day 1, in high school when she screamed, "You're a flaming faggot and everyone knows it!!!" It was the same as the other encounters that I'd had with her too...
Of course, she couldn't see me, she just wanted to say something extra hurtful!!! It didn't work. What it did do was allow me to open up Pandora's Box into what she knew about me and my family and her intentions. I've used it ever since. You know Lori, she isn't about to stop talking about herself, her feelings, her crimes and basically her. Lori has more things to say about herself than anyone that has never been anywhere, had a job or enjoyed being in a relationship. She's made up more boyfriends than anyone I've ever heard of, which told me that she was as uncomfortable with her lesbianism than I'd heard from friends. A complete homophobe still, just the girl we were looking for. Of course, she was going to take every opportunity to swipe at me, but she'd never seen me defend myself before. This is the first time I've ever stood up to her and she doesn't like it one bit.
Actually, that isn't 100% accurate either. When I was 12 or 13, I stood up to the allegations that my father had molested a male student. I knew it wasn't true. My father would never lay a hand on me or any student. He's like the kind of father that most of my friends would have loved to have had. It wasn't an act, he's really like that. So for me to be a witness against what Lori had made up, was like my first stand against her. It worked too, because it was the truth and because I was honest. There were other witnesses too. I am left to wonder what happened to his accuser that lied? I wouldn't ever go looking for him but I want to ask him about Lori's involvement. Certainly, my life was ruined because of the allegations, but I'm sure he changed too...I hope that he got what he deserved in life after trying to take my father from me and my family.
Don't get me wrong here, I harbor no ill feelings toward this person any longer, but I do think that at some point he should learn about all the things Lori did to me, my sister and family because he went along with those allegations that Lori made up. He should know that his attempt to hurt my father only ended up hurting me, an innocent kid of 11 years old who actually did turn out to be gay. I'm not sure any of these kids that Lori set up understands what she does to follow through when her lies are dismissed with a "not guilty"?
Her anger has always been focused on me and my friends. I don't know if it's because we're gay or because we wouldn't like her or whatever. Lori perceives a slight when any man doesn't pay attention to her or woman. That can trigger her "stalker" at any time.
