There's something that I want to explain to people that I haven't ever been able to put into words before, but I know successful people will tell you every single time. I don't know how to fail. Genetically speaking, I simply do not have that concept installed on my hard drive. I want to tell all of you out there that as long as there is life, there is success.
I come from a family that, by and large, have all done better than the generations of people before them, and they did better than the generations before them...genetically speaking I can't fail. I don't see the world and a lifetime the way that a lot of people see it. This is a really odd concept to put forth on a blog dealing with a pair of sibling stalkers Hellbent on proving that I am wrong here, but hear me out.
You've heard all kinds of people talking about finding the silver lining or doubling your failures to succeed, but I've really adopted the concept of my life being a long journey and success being defined by my own standard of happiness. It's not the job, it's not the bank account, it's not the children...it's about what makes me happy. I like helping other people...and to me, it is the most selfish thing in the world. A friend taught me a long time ago that if I wanted to feel better about something, I should help other people. He told me that I would always feel better after helping someone else. He was more right than anyone. This is what I call a quality problem...like having more money than you can spend.
Some people will complain and say, "he just does nice things for people because he wants the accolades"; there are far worse things going on in this world than that and I believe that it identifies me as a person to turn to in a time of trouble. Someone has to step out, don't they? How would people that need help find people to help unless they know who does that?
You see, with all of the problems that electronic harassment has caused me, my family, my friends, the City of Palm Springs and the world, I'm in a position to help; and that makes me happy. Failure is something that defines a situation and some people take it as something tremendously awful. I've got news for all of you out there that think someone has failed. Failure is part of success...it's a component of what success is. Very few people have had success without failure and I'll go out on a limb and say that someone could always find some kind of failure in some area of their lives too. Success is a concept that is pieced together with failure as a component. It's like hard work, dedication, motivation and all of the other things that make up the whole concept of SUCCESS. Pessimists see success as a component of failure...I see things the other way.
For example Laurie is a failure because this system didn't make her popular, rich, famous or anything like she thought it would. I took her system and all of the horrible things that hurt me and rolled them into a successful concept of help and public service, that makes me a better brother, person, son in law, friend and boyfriend. I'm a success that is defined only by the way I handle the situation, not by the way it makes me feel at the time. I would suggest taking a look at why you think something has failed...and wonder what component of success that will play for your life.
Just my thoughts.
